In the Eyes of Babes: What I learned about speaking encouraging words to my daughter

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“So speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind. I know you’re already doing this; just keep on doing it.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11

I’ve been diving into books and scriptures lately about constructing a home where my family and I can grow. Ever since I was a child, I’ve dreamed of being a wife and mother. Aurora has just turned one. So now I have a little more time and energy to really focus on how I want my household to be.

One book I’ve been reading is, “A Life Giving Home: Creating a Place of Belonging and Becoming.” Sally and Sarah Clarkson do an amazing job describing how every day tasks can impact your family, whether in a positive or a negative way.

One chapter that spoke to me was about the way Sally and Sarah greeted their children when waking them up in the morning. This is not a hard task for me, which is why I was surprised by how important this has become.

The two authors talk about intentionally greeting their kids with things like, “Good morning, my lovely.” Or “you’re a blessing in my life.” Phrases that are brief comments, but can quickly change a person’s attitude.

After reading this chapter, I wanted to be more conscious about how I greet my daughter for the first time each day. I never speak ill towards her. However, I am half asleep most of the time. I rarely get to bed before midnight throughout the week. My work schedule sometimes has me crawling in the door after 1:00 A.M. Despite my tired mornings, I want Aurora to see how grateful I am for her.

The other morning I woke up to her crying. I quickly greeted her with a smile. But it wasn’t until her mid morning nap that I saw the positive affirmation really hit home. I know you must be thinking, “how does a one year-old know what you’re saying?” To be honest, I don’t know if she fully understands. Although, I do believe she feels the loving message.

I went to put Aurora down for her mid-morning nap. I began to say things like, “I’m so blessed to have you as a daughter. Thank you for making me a mother. I love your beautiful spirit each and every day.”

I noticed something different while I was reciting those encouraging words. Usually, Aurora puts her two fingers in her mouth or starts to rub her eyes. She rarely shows that she’s listening. But this time she looked me in the eyes the entire time. Aurora had the biggest smile. It was as if she knew exactly what I was saying.

In that moment I saw how important words like that are for a child. Once again, she may not understand the deep meaning behind my words, but she felt the impact of them. Sometimes as parents, we forget our little babies can be effected by the way we speak to them and treat them. There are so many times I see parents talking down to their kids. Speaking to them as though they are annoying or in the way.

I have my bad days like everyone else. However, I do not want my child (and future children) to ever feel insignificant.

I challenge you to speak life into those around you. This can be used for your spouse, friends, family and even strangers. It won’t take long to see that person light up with confidence. You never know who may need to hear those words, especially if they grew up hearing discouragement.

Moms, don’t be too hard on yourself if you can’t always greet your children with a positive attitude. We are human. There will be days that stress will get the better of you. Those are the days when we remember God’s grace and mercy. Ask our kids for forgiveness and turn that day around.

What are some ways you try to create a loving and happy home? Post your ideas below in the comment section. Don’t forget to share this post with others who need a little encouragement.


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