It’s officially November which means we are heading into the holidays quickly. It’s a time for joy, love and cheer. But when you’re single the holidays can leave you frustrated and even sad. Here are some ways to survive your family’s repetitive “single” questions.
- Own your status: Be confident in who you are. Whether that means you explain to your family why you’re single or inform them your marital status is not the topic for Thanksgiving dinner. It honestly depends on how you are with your family and what your story is. But don’t let them make you feel bad about your status. There is nothing wrong with being single.
- Bring a friend to the party: Now you may not want to bring a friend of the opposite sex. Otherwise you’re asking for everyone to comment on your relationship. But if you have friend who is single as well then bring them along. That way you won’t be stuck at the kids table. Or have to sit between couples the whole time.
- Spend time with those you love: I know most people battle their families about being single, but some families actually accept it without making it a big deal. If that is yours then just enjoy time with them. If you’re the only single person in the room don’t focus on that. Be thankful that you get to spend time with your family. We are never promised tomorrow. You never know if this will be someone’s last holiday season.
- Stay Busy at Holiday parties: When my family and I get together we like to play games. When you’re playing “spoons” or a fun group game you won’t be thinking about your marital status. You’ll be having too much fun with each other.
- Throw a singles Holiday party: Whether it’s a Thanksgiving meal or a Tacky-sweater Christmas party, it’s a great time to have other single friends over. You can even invite people who may be going through a divorce. Or someone who lost their spouse. No matter if you’re in your early 20’s or late 50’s you know of people who are single. It’s a great time to get to know new friends.
- Treat yourself to a special gift: I don’t mean go out and buy a new car. Unless you have the money in cash. I do mean get yourself something that you can afford based on your income. Whether that be a movie and a pedicure or buying yourself a new outfit. Spend time alone and do something that is fun. One day you’ll look back at your single years and be thankful for them. Which takes me to my last point.
- Be thankful for the single years: I know this seems like a hard one. Especially if you’ve been alone a long time. One thing I can tell you is I loved my single years. I loved meeting new people and learning who I was. Maybe that’s you this holiday season. So don’t be afraid to get to know who you are.
I hope these tips are helpful. They’re not bullet proof but I pray they help you stay positive. Again, don’t focus on your martial status. Instead, enjoy time with family and friends. Be thankful for what you have. Most importantly, remember that being single is not a disease. Nor is it a dirty word. I don’t know why you are single but it’s not because you’re NOT wanted. You’re amazing as you are.
If there is one thing you take from this blog I hope you remember how much God loves you. He is the point of the season anyway right? Remember Jesus was single too. He spent his short life doing for others. Even dying on the cross to save you. So if anyone knows about single life it’s him. Maybe spend more time with him when you feel alone. Let him fill your heart with love this holiday season. Surround yourself with people that love you. It will be the best reminder of how much you are loved. Even after the holiday season.
What are some ways you handle being single throughout the holiday season? I want to hear form you. Leave a comment. Be sure to like my Facebook page and Instagram.