“Don’t measure love based off of a Facebook post, measure love based off the one who created you.”
You wake up to a beautiful sunny day. You sit up in bed. Put your feet in your favorite slippers and stretch. You think, “today is going to be a great day”. That is until you remember it’s Valentine’s Day. Your body slumps down a little just thinking about the hundreds of couple posts you’ll be seeing on Facebook. You think to yourself, “I wish I had someone to love me today.”
Valentine’s Day is hard for those who don’t have a significant other. If you’re single because you’re waiting for the right person then it makes it even harder. You start guessing whether you should have said yes to that date last month. But you knew in your heart that wasn’t the person God had for you.
Ladies here is something one of my mentors expressed a few years ago on this day. It is something that I found encouraging as a single 24-year-old who was patiently waiting for my future husband.
“A faithful man is worth waiting for and women should value men who are honorable and faithful and consider them above men with smooth lines and the wandering eyes. Wait for the man who only has eyes for you. Loneliness in short term is better than sorrow later.”
– Sherry Carlstrom
Side note: If you are waiting for that person….then wait. Don’t settle because you are lonely. I know so many women who go from one relationship to another without ever giving themselves a chance to be alone. That is a dangerous habit. I know from experience. Don’t make decisions like that based on your emotions. You will survive being alone. (I’ll write another post on this topic later).
Yes, today will be lonely. Yes, you will find yourself holding back tears as you think about not having a special someone. Instead of focussing on what you DON’T have, focus and what you DO have. One thing that helped me during my single years were close friendships and family. My friend Brooke and I would take each other out to breakfast. We were both single at the time so we found ways to encourage each other on this day. I remember my last Valentine’s Day as a single was my hardest. My sister helped my niece make me a card and chocolate covered strawberries. My mom gave me a single rose to brighten up my day. That is still one of my favorite Valentine’s.
Today, I encourage you to find someone to show love to. It could be a co-worker who lost their spouse. It could be your grandmother who lives in a nursing home. Or it could be a complete stranger you see sitting by themselves at a coffee shop. The most amazing thing about love is that it can be shared with anyone. It’s not just a romantic thing. Valentine’s Day can be more about “community love” instead of “couple love”. There are ways to help make this day better for you and others. I promise you won’t remember that you’re single.
Most importantly don’t neglect the one relationship that matters the most. There’s not a better day to improve your relationship with God than Valentine’s Day. If you want to truly understand what love is then open your Bible. It’s full of scriptures about how God loves you. Like in John 3:16, Romans 5:8, Ephesians 2:4-5 and John 13:34-35…just to name a few.
I’m going to leave you with one last quote that I wrote a few years ago.
“Roses die, candy gets eaten and cards get thrown away. But there is one gift that will never fade. That’s the gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ. He loves you so much that He died for you. I pray you experience His love today whether you have someone special or not.”