Back to Basics: When You Have to Start from the Beginning

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Starting with the basics. It’s a common idea when you’re trying to learn how to do a new hobby or learn a new skill. But when you’ve been there before it’s hard to go back to the beginning. That’s been my biggest struggle with my weight loss.

Many of you may not know but I have been through the weight loss process before. I lost 70 pounds back in 2011-2012. It was through running I learned how to love exercise. It also taught me how hard work really does pay off. It wasn’t long before I was hooked. I did a number of 5Ks, a 10K and 2 half-marathons. Sadly, I stopped running and quickly fell back into my old habits.

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It’s a little embarrassing now writing about me starting over again. Why? Because I see it as a huge failure on my part. I stopped believing in myself. I stopped reaching for new goals. I felt like I had reached the finish line so I stopped. But life and exercise is not like that. Just like our spiritual walk with God, it is a DAILY battle.

“Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.” – Luke 9:23

Luke 9:23 is a reminder how God says we must take up our cross daily. We have to remind ourselves every day why we are here and what our purpose is. This is the same in exercising, relationships with others and our walk with Christ. Why did he say this? Because God knew we need to go back to the basics to keep ourselves on track.

Like in my workouts. In my mind I have run half marathons before. I should be able to walk out of my house and do it again. But because I have not strengthened my running muscles in so long I am starting over. It’s hard to humble yourselves back to the beginning. But when we go back to the basics that’s where we can renew our strength for what’s to come.

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Whether you’re starting over in your spiritual walk or your physical exercise journey, know going back to the basics does not mean you’re a failure. It just means you’re renewing your strength. Slowly growing into that person you once were. Take the time to refine what you may have overlooked before. Train smart. Progress is progress.

What part of your life are you starting over? Exercise? Spiritual walk? What have been the hardest struggles so far?

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It was more than 2 years ago my husband and I moved to the Midwest. We were excited to head to a new place but leaving family was hard. Now, they live about 12 hours away. With our busy schedules it’s hard to stay in touch with family on a regular basis. As 2018 is about to start I decided I wanted to spend more time with my family. Even if it is over the phone.

Yesterday, I text my sister and scheduled an afternoon phone call with “tea time”. We both asked our husbands to watch the kids while we went into a quiet room to talk on the phone. My sister enjoyed a hot cup of Chai tea while I grabbed an afternoon cup of coffee. We talked on the phone for almost 3 hours. (We did not expect it to go that long). It was great. I loved just talking to her about what’s been going on.

My sister and I always enjoyed drinking coffee and talking ever since I can remember. When we lived in the same city I would go over to her house and talk all day. We even liked going out for Starbucks and making a girls day out of it. Sadly, those moments are far and few between these days. Again, the distance and the fact we’re raising kids of our own can make it difficult to spend time together.

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As I get older, I find myself seeing the real importance of life. People. I would trade everything to have more time with my family and friends. I also know we are not promised tomorrow. I want to make the best of each day. Last year, I struggled a lot with depression and anxiety. I had very few people who knew. Even fewer who reached out to  see how I was doing. Now that I am doing better I want to make sure the people that I love don’t go unnoticed. It’s so important for us to take the time to see others. To ask how they are doing. To stop and schedule some time to talk with a friend or family member.

That’s why in 2018 I hope to spend more quality time with family and friends. Even if it’s over the phone. By scheduling an hour to sit and talk is important to me. I’m hoping to add more of my friends and family to this new tradition. As my husband and I journey into becoming foster/adoptive parents I know we will need support. We will need to have strong relationships around us. No matter the distance.

What are some ways you stay in touch with family and friends? Is there someone you need to reach out to?

Leave your comments below. I want to hear from you.

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