You’re More Than A PB&J Mom

Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches have become a daily meal at our house. I even remember as a kid that’s all I would eat for lunch. Seriously, they are easy to make and just so darn delicious. But today the PB&J sandwich made me question if I’m a “good mom.”

I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my second baby; which means everything hurts. My hips are constantly in pain, I pee at least 6 times a night. I battle insomnia at night while struggling to stay awake during the day.

Today, I actually had some energy to do a few chores. To me, that means clean the whole house. But my body only allowed me to Vaccuum and sweep the floors before my back was screaming at me. I felt so exhausted afterwards. I couldn’t push through the pain. My anxiety was escalating just by looking at the mess around the house.

Finally, I put my daughter down for her nap. I decided to rest myself but by the time I started to fall asleep my happy toddler was at my bedside ready to eat lunch.

As I walked in the kitchen I struggled to keep my eyes open. I was tired and all the energy I had to muster was only good enough to make a PB&J for my daughter. That’s when I broke down into a deep cry for about 5 minutes. “You’re a bad mom”, “you can do better”, “Aurora deserves a better mom” all flooded my mind. I felt completely overwhelmed with failure and I didn’t know how to find the energy to do more. In the midst of my crying, my beautiful 3-year-Old ran and hugged my leg with all her strength. “Mommy, it’s okay.”

Even though she didn’t understand why I was crying she reminded me in that moment that she loves me. She reminded me that a 3-year-Old doesn’t measure by perfection. They measure by love and how those around them are a part of their everyday lives.

I may have made the millionth PB&J but to my daughter it was something to look forward to. She never saw it as a lack of effort on my part but a treat to enjoy.

My husband called me right after my breakdown. He reminded me that I’m not a bad mom. He told me I’m 37 weeks pregnant so it’s okay not to be able to do everything. He told me to be patient until after I have our baby boy. Then I can become supermom again. (He knows me so well because that’s exactly what I want to be. Even at 37 weeks — supermom).

To the moms like me (pregnant or not) struggling to make more than a PB&J — you’re a good mom. You’re doing the best you can within your circumstances. Your babies love you and really do enjoy that PB&J. Give yourself grace and remember that what you make for lunch doesn’t define who you are as a mom. It’s the time and love you put into your kids that really makes a big difference.

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Attention Shoppers, Please Be Patient With My Screaming Kid

For many, the grocery store is a place where people go for a peaceful stroll while they shop for food. That is until my daughter walks through the doors.

My 2-year-old is pushing the buggy fast through crowds of people, nearly running over several toes along the way. Once she spots the crackers she grabs them off the shelf and throws them in the buggy. A snack I don’t mind giving her later but my daughter wants to eat them now. I tell her not until we check out, which causes a huge dramatic reaction. I look around at fellow shoppers as she screams “crackers.”

I bend down to calm my daughter but it only makes it worse. It takes about 5 minutes to explain she can have crackers once we get back to the car. Once that issue is resolved we continue to shop for the handful of items I came for. The next isle, the process starts over again. By the time she gets to the checkout I’m straining to hear the cashier reveal the total. My child is out of control because all she wants is “crackers” and of course it continues on the way to car.Before I can put her in the car seat – I spend another 5 minutes explaining what needs to happen before she gets a cracker. She finally calms down, I get her strapped in her seat and she enjoys her cracker.

This happens a lot. I see those looks from fellow shoppers who cringe when my child screams. I see the people who try to calm my child down but are rudely rejected by my 2-year-old’s, “No”. I see frustrated shoppers trying to grab items off the shelf where my child is throwing a tantrum. Please, just be patient.

It’s not because I won’t discipline my child. It’s because I am trying to teach her patience without whipping her into submission. Yes, she does receive spankings on occasion but as parents we also learned that the more she gets spankings the more she hits. My child responds to timeouts, not hitting.Shoppers please don’t get frustrated, I know my kid is acting like a wild animal. I know she needs to calm down but sadly, 2-year-olds don’t listen to reason. They react based on emotions.

I want my child to learn she can’t get what she wants when she screams for it. I want her to learn the meaning of patience. I want her to be okay waiting for something even if she wants it REALLY bad. Why? Because those teachings start now.

One day I want her to be a great person who impacts others, to be faithful to God and trust him even when she doesn’t get her way. I want her to be able to calm down without always spanking her. I also want her to have a calming spirit towards her children one day. So shoppers, I thank you for being patient. I thank you for giving me the space to discipline my child. I thank you for understanding that I am trying as a mom.

I am working daily with my child’s reactions to her world around her. For both of our peace, I pray one day I can walk in a store with my toddler and not fight a battle. I pray she will help me grab items off of the shelf and place them in the buggy but for now she needs to learn how to act.

So until then shoppers, please be patient, offer me a smile instead of a grimaced look. Try not to be quick to judge the situation and my lack of parenting skills. For now, try to shop around me when I am in the middle of the isle dealing with a toddler’s attitude. I promise one day, I will offer the same grace when you find yourself handling a toddler of your own.

***DISCLAIMER: This article represents my views on tasing my child. This article is not meant to criticize or point fingers at parents that choose other ways to discipline their children.****

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Day 11 Giveaway: Pampered Chef

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The 12 Days of Christmas Giveaway is almost over. But I still have a few more items for you guys. Today, you get a chance to win a 3 cutting boards from Pampered Chef’s Collection. This is a $17 value.

Stacy is the lady behind this gift. She donated this item for the giveaway. Here’s how Stacey decided to partner with Pampered Chef.

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“I’m a stay-at-home mom to 4 great kids whom I homeschool.  I was trying to find a way to help with the little extras at home but have fun while doing it.  One night, I hosted a Pampered Chef show in my home. My husband commented, “Hey you could do that and have fun too.”  Pampered Chef has great products that range in price. So yes some can be spendy but others aren’t.  The host and consultant benefits are great as well as the support system. ” – Stacey
You can follow Stacey on Facebook or checkout her Pampered Chef’s website.
Here’s how you can enter a chance to win.
Click here to view this promotion.

Day 10 Giveaway: Modern Day Healthy Hippie

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Throughout the holiday season we are constantly surrounded by yummy food. It’s not easy for anyone to resist. So staying healthy can be a challenge. Whether you want to lose weight or meet a new fitness goal, Day 10’s giveaway could help you get back on track. It’s a free one-hour coaching session with the Modern Healthy Hippie. A $99 value.

Whoever wins will have the option of signing up for Carra’s personalized custom wellness coaching program that is currently $250 for a month of unlimited communication, coaching, help with meal planning, grocery lists and fitness routines.

Carra is the owner of Modern Healthy Hippie. She tells us how her passion for fitness encouraged her to help others.

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“I started The Modern Healthy Hippie because I recognized that so many people had no idea where to begin a healthier lifestyle.  Over the years, I learned that most women do not give themselves permission to take care of themselves, yet they pour into the lives of so many others.  My passion is helping them realize that when they feel and look their best, they can be more available for so many others, reduce their health care costs and be the best version of themselves! We are all unique and I want all women to feel beautiful and be as healthy as possible!  I offer real life solutions and a personalized plan for each person.” – Carra

You can follow Carra on her Facebook page.

You can also check out The Modern Healthy Hippie’s website.

Now is your chance to enter the free giveaway.

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Day 2 Giveaway: The Busted Quiver

I’m excited to introduce this item. I actually received these as a present for my birthday. I haven’t stopped wearing them. You may have spotted them in some of my pictures and videos I’ve done.

Today, you have the chance to win a pair of crochet earrings from The Busted Quiver. These are handmade by Leah who is a mother of 7. Yes, she still finds time to make these beautiful earrings. Leah talks about how making these earrings are helping a bigger cause than herself. A value of $16.

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“I started this business when I couldn’t find crocheted earrings that I really like and could afford. I began searching out different styles and patterns. My friends seemed to really like what I was creating for them, so I started selling them. I quickly realized that the profit I was bringing in would be a great way to support causes and other businesses that support justices. Mainly anti-pornography causes and rescuing girls from sex trafficking. The name of my business came  from our big family. It is hard work  and raising these children. I feel at times that our quiver has just gone and busted with all these arrows we are blessed with, so that’s how we got the name!  I feel like the profit, “The Busted Quiver” donates is small considering the huge problem that both of those things are. We pray that the small amount given does big things for justice in our world.” – Leah

You can follow the Busted Quiver on Facebook and Instagram to learn more about Leah’s mission.

Enter a chance to win a free pair of crochet earrings below.

Click here to view this promotion.

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Happy Friday! I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. I wanted to share the last 3 ladies who will be a part of the 12 Days of Christmas Giveaway.

Meet, Tiffany! Some of you may know she is my older sister. Tiffany is a wife and mother of two. She is one of the reasons I wanted to partner with women who own their own businesses. This lovely lady started Wortheymade 4 years ago. It started off as a hobby but it grew into a business that has brought an extra income for her family. Here’s how Tiffany decided on her business name.

“My business is named after my mom’s side of my family. I thought it would be a unique name and fun way to incorporate my heritage into my business.”

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Next up is, Debbie. Like many others, her business started because she saw a need in her own family. She wanted healthy and natural products for her family to use. So she decided to make her own. That’s how Grandma Bea’s got started.

“Home remedies personally made on our family farm in rural southeast Missouri. I create the products in small batches using natural ingredients to insure quality and freshness.”

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Last but not least is, Lauren. This lady has amazing talent. When she volunteered to be a part of this giveaway I was blown away buy her product. Once again, I can’t tell you what it is but you’ll know soon enough. Lauren started Creator’s Handiwork to change the work and help hopeless children. Lauren says her business was built on the Ephesians 2:10.

“Prayer is the backbone of Creator’s Handiwork. I’ve had the privilege of seeing God answer so many prayers and I love hearing stories of how God is using my gift to bless others!”

Now you know all the ladies involved in the 12 Days of Christmas Giveaway. If you missed some of the other ladies then you can click on the links below.

Remember to mark your calendars for December 4th through December 15th for the giveaway.

 

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Are you getting excited yet about the 12 Days of Christmas Giveaway? If you’ve been reading about theses ladies then you probably have some idea as to what will be up for grabs starting December 4th through December 15th. Before we start the giveaway there are still a few more ladies you need to meet.

Introducing, Leah. She is a wife and mother of 7. Even in the midst of her busy life she still has time to makes beautiful items. Leah started her side business, The Busted Quiver, to make some extra money. That’s when she decided to start donating her funds to something bigger than herself.

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“I quickly realized that the profit I was bringing in would be a great way to support causes and other businesses that support justices, mainly anti-pornography causes and rescuing girls from sex trafficking.”

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Next up is, Christina. She is the owner and operator of Your Happy House Cleaner. Christina started the business to help busy moms focus on the most important thing. Family.

“We help working moms enjoy having a happy home to come back to and the end of a long day! We give back our clients their time with their family.”

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This lovely lady is Stacey. She is a wife and stay-at-home mom of 4. Stacey was looking for ways to help with the extras around the home. That’s when she decided to be a part of Pampered Chef.

“One night I hosted a Pampered Chef show in my home and my husband commented hey you could do that and have fun to.”

You’ve met 3 more hard working ladies, but they’re not the last. Coming up on Friday, you will meet the last set of ladies who are giving you free stuff.

 

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Preparing My Daughter for Battle

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“I looked up at my 17-month-old daughter who was quietly eating her toast. That’s when it hit me. I need to prepare her for battle.”

I was sitting at the breakfast table with my daughter. Scrolling through news stories when I came across an NBC story about micro chipping children. People with both opinions talked about reasons for and against this tiny microchip. Some believe it will keep better track of your children just in case something bad happens while others say it’s another way for “Big Brother” to track you.

I started digesting the article. Then my mind quickly went to the several hurricanes, earthquakes and fires we’ve had in the recent weeks. Not to mention the outpouring of hate towards others and their beliefs. I looked up at my 17-month-old daughter who was quietly eating her toast. That’s when it hit me. I need to prepare her for battle.

This beautiful little girl with such joy will one day face this world. There are many days I honestly believe Jesus will be coming back. No one knows the exact time but God. However, he gives us warning signs. Signs that seem to be unfolding all around us.

“Then they will deliver you to tribulation, and will kill you, and you will be hated by all nations because of My name. 10 At that time many will fall away and will betray one another and hate one another. 11 Many false prophets will arise and will mislead many. 12 Because lawlessness is increased, most people’s love will grow cold. 13 But the one who endures to the end, he will be saved. 14 This gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in the whole world as a testimony to all the nations, and then the end will come.”

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It’s not hard to look at the world and see hate. But there is also love, compassion and grace. That is who I want my daughter to be. I’m always thinking of new ways to prepare my daughter to walk, read, and be a sweet lady. But preparing her for this world is my top priority.

I need to teach my daughter to have a strong relationship with God. I need to teach her to put on the full armor of God each day. I need to teach her to be prepared when someone challenges her beliefs. I need to teach her how to respond in a loving way when her beliefs are being attacked. As her mother I cannot send her out in the world unprepared to face these battles. She may not win all of them. But I want her to stand firm in God. Always seeking Him for strength.

“It’s not hard to look at the world and see hate. But there is also love, compassion and grace. That is who I want my daughter to be.”

To me, this world is growing darker. The stuff I see every day honestly scares me. Even more so now that I am a mother. After having my daughter, I look at the world through her eyes. As much as I want to protect her, I know it’s my responsibility to prepare her to be ready. The world she grows up in will be far worse than the one I know unless Jesus comes back. My daughter is only 17-months-old right now, but it’s not too early to start.

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I try to read her God’s word each day. I try to have worship music on throughout our home. My husband and I also agreed to start letting her sit through the worship service at our church. We want her to have a strong connection to God through worship and music. But I also realized there is something else I could be doing right now.

I need to start with me. I am not as close to God as I once was. I’ve struggled with depression and trust issues with him over the last year or so. But I know when my relationship is suffering with God I cannot be a good role model for my daughter. She will not see the woman she needs to become. Even if I teach her differently my daughter will adopt my attitude towards Christ, not my words.

If you’re like me, I encourage you to join me on this journey. Maybe you have an older daughter. It’s not too late to start now. We as mothers impact our children more than we know. It doesn’t always seem true. Especially if you’re repeating yourself about the same things.

“Mothers, the greatest gift you can give your children and family is a true, deep, overwhelming relationship with God. It won’t be easy and no, it won’t be painless. But it will be worth it.”

Moms, I encourage you to find that path leading to a better relationship with him.  It’s our job to prepare our kids to leave our home. So why not prepare them for this ugly world? Which means some of us (me) may need to work on ourselves as well.

I would love to hear from other moms about what they do to help their children and themselves grow closer to God. Leave your comments below. Feel free to share this post with others.